8 Tamil Matrimonial Rituals That MakeThe Wedding Unique And Special

Tamil Matrimony

South Indian weddings are known to be filled with more traditions and less glamour in comparison to North Indian weddings. And while every wedding in South India is picturesque and unique, it's the Tamil matrimonial weddings that steal the show. Tamilians are known for their simplicity and minimalism and give super importance to their traditions and rituals. And right from Tamil matchmaking to the colorful sarees worn by the bride, everything in a Tamil wedding is distinct and visually appealing. That said, here are some beautiful rituals followed in Tamil weddings that make them a visual delight for everyone. 

Unique Tamil Matrimonial Rituals That Make It So Appealing 

  1. Nakshatra Porutham: No Tamil wedding takes place without Nakshatra Porutham. This ceremony is considered to be very important in Tamil matrimonial, and as a part of this ceremony, the family of the groom and bride get the couple's horoscopes matched before proceeding further with wedding arrangements. Following the set of Vedic rules and analyzing stars according to the Tamil calendar, the horoscope is matched on 12 points. Once the horoscope is matched, other things like wedding dates, muhurat, and rituals get aligned depending on the readings. 
  1. Sumangali Prarthanai: In Tamil, the word Sumangali means a woman who is carrying a happy married life. And as part of the ritual, a prayer is conducted for the bride. And all the Sumangalis are called for the prayers so that they can bless the bride-to-be for a happy married life. In Tamil matrimony, this ritual is of utmost importance to the bride. And to be a part of it, all Sumangalis are expected to wear a traditional nine-yard saree, and if not that, they must wear a Madisar for this occasion. When it comes to the invitation, the Sumangalis are always invited in odd numbers and treated with a grand South Indian meal after the pooja. 
  1. Pallikai Thellichal: Every ceremony that takes place in Tamil matrimony is considered to be distinct and propitious in a certain way. When it comes to Pallikai Thellichal, this ceremony takes place for the couple's future life. As a part of the ceremony, nine types of grains with curd are mixed well and filled into 7-decorated earthen pots. After the prayers, the earthen pots are submerged in water and fed to the fishes. Feeding the fish is a vital aspect of this ritual, and hence it  adds good luck in the couple's life. 
  1. Naandi Srardham: Seeking blessings of ancestors is not only necessary but is also considered to be lucky for the bride and groom. For the same, the Naandi Srardham ceremony takes place in Tamil matchmaking. In this ceremony, Ten or fewer Brahmins are invited to devour an authentic South Indian feast arranged by both families. Besides the food, fruits, coconut, flowers, sweets, and traditional clothes are also offered to the Brahmins once they bless the couple for a great married life. 
  1. Oonjal: This is one of the most fun wedding rituals of Tamil weddings. And if you have been to one, you definitely know what we are talking about. And if you haven't, you must know that for performing the Oonjal ceremony, married ladies of the family should offer milk and banana to the bride and the groom while the couple relaxes on a swing. And after feeding the couple, rice balls are thrown around them to ward off evil. With so much color and perfect decor, this ceremony looks supremely pretty. And you should definitely attend it at least once. 
  1. Nishchayathram: Like other Hindu weddings, Nischayathram is an engagement ceremony which takes place in every Tamil wedding. The ceremony begins once the groom's family arrives at the venue to give sarees and jewelry to the bride as a gift. Once the bride receives her gifts, the family then seeks the blessings of Lord Ganesh. And while the family seeks Lord Ganesha's blessings they also perform aarti of the bride and tie grains, leaves, coconuts, turmeric, and other things in the hem of her saree. This act makes sure that the bride is always hail and hearty and protected from the evil eye. 
  1. Kanyadanam: Be it North Indian or South Indian, Kanyadan is the most distinctive part of every Hindu wedding. However, when it comes to Tamil weddings, Kanyadaanam is done in a fun way. As a part of the ritual, the bride's saree's hem is knotted to the groom's angavastram. While the groom is seated on the ground, the bride sits on her father's lap  holding a coconut in her hand. The ritual signifies that the father is giving his darling daughter, who played in his lap in childhood, to the groom. While giving away his daughter, the father also seeks the groom's promise that he will always take care of her by offering him the coconut help on the bride's hand. 
  1. Saptapadi: After the Kanyadanam and other ceremonies are done, the bride and groom take seven holy rounds of the fire, and it is known as the Saptapadi. After this ritual, the groom holds the left toe of the bride and helps her walk on a grindstone, which is kept near the holy fire. This ceremony is done to signify that their marriage is going to be as solid as this rock. The stone on which the bride places her toe is associated with the entrance of her new home. The stone will always remind the bride of her duties towards her new family. 

Such culturally diverse traditions make Tamil matchmaking different and unique. However, you should also know that while these ceremonies are a part of almost every Tamil wedding, different sub-communities might also follow some additional rituals and customs. Nevertheless, such rituals and customs are always a delight to watch when you are a part of them. So what we are saying is to try to be a part of the Tamil style matrimony at least once. 

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