Before the Internet came into the daily life of people, arranged marriages used to happen through traditional matchmakers or people who used to work part-time as brokers. Internet or no internet, love marriages were always there. Many people angrily and outrightly discarded them when they first heard about the online matrimony platforms. However, looking at the current scene, we can safely say that these platforms have revolutionized the whole matchmaking scene. All thanks to unprecedented internet penetration among the common masses!
Equipped with numerous advantages, matrimonial platforms have readily available data, across the world, at their disposal that helps them let people meet their betterhalf. People have better clarity about their wishes, likes, dislikes, prospects, what they want from marriage, etc. Considering all of this, it is a no-brainer that thousands of people have signed up on these platforms every day to find their life partners. And this includes their parents too.
However, many people don’t trust these matrimonial platforms due to one concern - A fair number of scammers. As they say, no tank exists without a few bad fishes. Due to these scammers who create fake profiles on these matrimonial websites & apps, many people get duped and face bad first experiences. But you don’t need to worry about that. We, at Betterhalf.ai, have put down a list of major red flags that you will find on these matrimonial websites. If you are hoping to find your life partner on such websites, these red flags will help you identify a scammer, imposter, or fake account. Also, you will be able to keep yourself and your data safe from any person with malicious intent. So, let’s look at them without any further delay.
Missing Information on Their Profile
On matrimonial platforms, the first thing you see is the profile of a user. The more details they have on their profile, the better it would be for you to know them. And the first alarming sign or red flag to notice an imposter or fake profile or a casual one is that you won’t find a detailed mini-world of that person on their profiles. So, if you come across an attractive profile with little to zero information, think twice before you send the connection request.
“First of all, the description of wheatish complexion can vary from gorgeous black Naomi Campbell to the snow-white color of Russian Gymnast girls. 😁 So, don’t go by the photo, you have to see face to face to know how much of wheatish is true and how much of a Pinocchio nose is a lie.” – Bala Rajan, Quora
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At Betterhalf.ai, we make sure to minimize the presence of imposters on our platform. We ask the user(s) to provide a detailed description with authentic information. Without it, our team doesn't approve the profile. Also, we haven’t chosen the automatic method of profile authentication so that every profile on our platform is authentic and manually verified, and you can meet your betterhalf without any trouble.
Hiding Their Social Media Profiles
Nowadays, you can tell everything about a person with his/her social media profile. Usually, when a person connects with any profile on matchmaking platforms, they like to check their social media profiles, too. It helps them confirm their identity and establish the authenticity of the person they are meeting.
One of the signs to identify an imposter is to see if they showcased their social media handles on their profile. If not, ask them directly. imposters or fake users will hesitate or give you an excuse. You can try searching for them on the Internet with their full name by yourself. Even if their profile is locked or they are skeptical to share their handles, you can search the profile and see its authenticity with the number of posts and followers.
“People who don’t wish you to know about their social media profiles. A person’s social media speaks volumes about his personality, his choice of friends, and the kinds of comments. This doesn’t mean we have to Snoop on the person. But I have caught people double-timing through their social media profiles.”- Baljeet Kaur
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“In my case, this guy who came through matrimony is way too qualified. IIT, IIM the photo he shared of a guy who looks perfect for me, the perfect family, boy, and everything. He showed that he is loving and wants to get hooked. I don’t know if it was inner instinct that made me alert. I checked his name on the Internet. As expected the result was not found, the address which he shared did not exist. Even the number comes out to be someone involved in rice trading. When I checked on the true caller, many people reported him as spam. So, I caught him but he started his emotional drama, and I blocked him before it got worse. Thank god!”– Riva Kapoor
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To encourage more and more authentic profiles on the platform, Betterhalf.ai, we have introduced an option of Login via Facebook (One-click matching) for users. We always check the genuineness of a person’s social media handles before making them live.
Asking for Your Personal Information - More than What is Required
On matrimonial platforms, you connect with people and start the conversation with your potential betterhalf. However, while doing that, you should observe their nature of questions. If s/he is more interested in knowing your salary, your property, bank balance, and anything related to finances right from the beginning of the conversation, it’s surely a red flag. At any point in the conversation, whether two months or years, make sure not to pay or share your bank account with a person you met online until and unless you’re not sure of him/her. There are several stories related to such scams.
“One day when I said I am going for shopping then he said no need to go for shopping as he already did lots of shopping for me and its there in the parcel, then I was like in full of doubts and started asking lots of questions to him then he got irritated (I also asked him parcel tracking ID then he said he don't have any..WTF dude). He asked for my office address already. The next day he said today you’ll receive the parcel but before that, you have to do some registration and have to pay some amount, I said OK.
Then I got one call, there was one lady, she said there is a parcel with my name and currently is in New Delhi and I have to do some registration then only I can receive my parcel, I said OK and asked how do I do registration, then she said nothing to do only you have to transfer registration amount in one account (see…how lovely the registration process is! ), I said OK and asked her to share details in the message, then she messaged one account details and asked to transfer 38K in it, I still said OK (as I started enjoying this guy’s trap). Then I forwarded that account details to him and asked him to transfer the amount so then I can receive the parcel, he said he can’t as he is in Canada. I was like what the hell, I said… this looks like a fraud for me, better you transfer money and ping me. After that, I didn’t receive his calls and then he also didn’t reply to my messages. The next day I pinged (just for fun 😛 ) but he didn’t reply anything as he already failed in his game.” –Pushpa Kumari
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At Betterhalf, we make sure that our users do not fall into any of the traps set by scammers. We take your complaints seriously. If a user raises a spam complaint about someone on our app, we thoroughly check the matter, and if found true, immediately remove the profile. Safety on our platform is our top concern, and we don’t wait for more than one user to file a complaint before banning an account. If you feel it's spam or harassed in any way, you only need to raise a complaint, and we will ban the profile immediately.
Tagging you with Mushy Names Early in the Conversation
Do you want yourself to be tagged with unwanted mushy names by someone who has just connected on matrimonial platforms? Certainly not, right!
It is one of the most important red flags that most people choose to ignore. Once you connect with someone and start a conversation, if s/he is instantly trying to lure with their flirty words and call you there “to be” and give you nicknames like “wifey” or “honey” or anything for that matters before even meeting you in person or knowing much about you, that could be a great red flag for sure. As soon as you find anything like this, you need to stay vigilant.
“Some red flags are requests such as sudden emergency that requires money and you are the chosen atm, Not willing to skype or FaceTime, Immediately falling in love, immediately using terms such as “ darling “, “Hunny”, ”Sweetheart “, Boasting about successes, etc.”- Barbara Sharma
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You must understand that at Betterhalf, we cannot guarantee the level of the cheesiness of our users as it would be nearly impossible. But we can assure you of one thing - You won’t get people who are not true to themselves. So, if they are acting all cheesy and mushy, they’re like that only. If you find any user who is hinting at such a red flag, our support is here to help you.
Not Revealing His/her Profession in Detail
When you are finding your betterhalf, his/her profession holds a key role in your relationship. With the information provided by the user about the profession and educational background, you can identify whether s/he is fake or real. Another way to check the same is by asking them in-depth questions related to their field. And we trust your intelligence that you will be able to tell if they are telling the truth or just faking for the sake of matches.
“It’s important to do a background check and health check with a reputed organization about the future spouse and their family but it when you are getting ready for the next level of final settlement !”- Shekhar Mahapatra
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“Usually they showcase themselves as working professionals and speak high-level English. Gets you on chat for 4-5 weeks then ask you to send money as they are in trouble or facing sudden challenge life.”- Ayaz Uddin
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So, at Betterhalf, how do we do things differently? Well, we manually verify the profession of the profiles and also ask the users to submit their government ID proofs to ensure utmost security on the platform. So, if a person claims to be a product manager on your platform, s/he most probably will be with a real name.
Profile Created by a Friend or Relative
Several matrimonial platforms provide an option where the prospect’s family, friends, or relatives can create the profile. The reason behind this feature is some people feel shy and don’t feel comfortable making their profiles. However, people have started exploiting the feature just to check their net value in the marriage market, which is a real shame. So, you need to be extra particular if you find such profiles because it might be possible they are not there with serious intent. You can end up wasting your valuable time while Interacting with such profiles.
“When someone writes their profile, it shows they are serious about their marriage and are not going through the process just because the parents think it's the right time to marry. When parents or siblings write a profile (which is indeed the case in most matrimony sites), there are a couple of issues: Parents/siblings may not have the complete picture of the expectations that their son/daughter has from a prospective match. Their understanding of their son/daughter’s personality and lifestyle may not be entirely accurate on these matrimonial websites.” - Srinivas Krishnaswamy
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To make sure there is no difference between the screen pictures and the behind-the-screen person, we leave no stones unturned. So, when you are on our app, you can be sure that there won’t be any direct family involvement in your chats. If you are determined to find your betterhalf and want to get married, you can try Betterhalf.ai to check if what we are saying is true or not. We hope that these signs will help you stay safe on matrimonial platforms and apps. May you find the best man for yourself! 🙂