Marriage is no joke; it takes a hell lot of time to adjust to new surroundings, houses, and people. And as a couple, you have to cross a lot of hurdles in your marriage to call it a happy and successful one. However, at times, post-marriage newlyweds make some common mistakes which lead to boundary issues, arguments, and eventually, fights. And while these mistakes are common, not solving them and tackling them the wrong way causes bigger fights in the future. And if you are newlyweds, we are sure you can relate to this. So for you, here are five common mistakes that you must avoid after marriage; read on, and you will thank us later.
5 Mistakes All the Newlyweds Should Avoid Post Marriage
1: You Don't Set The Right Boundaries: When you get married to the love of your life, as newlyweds, you tend to be so engrossed with each other that you forget to set boundaries. When we talk about boundaries, we mean the ones you set with your in-laws and friends. You are not an individual anymore, and whatever decisions you make should be from an 'us' point of you. Be it chilling with your friends on a Friday night or planning a trip to your in-laws - as a couple - you two should be equally involved in the decision. Post wedding, couples tend to make this mistake by deciding things by themselves, and to avoid that, start thinking about everything as a team. You are married now, and everything you do should be from an 'us' point of view. Yes, you are an individual, but things are better when done together.
2. You Don't Keep Any Room For Mistakes: When you are in a relationship with someone, you know things will mess up at times. But after marriage, you start fearing those mistakes. And if you think that your partner cannot and shouldn't make those mistakes, you need to work on your relationship. It is one of the many common mistakes that newlyweds make, and to make sure that you avoid this mistake, always keep some room for mistakes in your marriage. It's okay for your partner to make mistakes - that's how you grow, learn and understand each other.
3. Not Drawing A Line For Family And Friends: Your friends and family are important; they are the ones who will do anything for your happiness. And, as newlyweds, you need to take some time for them as well. After marriage, you should always maintain a calendar together. It means that you should set aside a few days to chill with your friends and family. You are newlyweds, and you want to be with each other, but it's vital to do things individually for a while. Plan a night out with friends and encourage your partner to do the same. If you are always together, you will start getting irritated, and it's always necessary to space things out. To avoid this mistake of being together and spend some time apart as well. It will help you appreciate each other's presence more.
4. You Should Do Certain Things Together: After wedding, men make the mistake of leaving the household duties to their wives. However, this is one of the many common mistakes that you must avoid by all means. You should decorate your house together, go grocery shopping as a couple and help your wife with all the household chores. This way, you will not only spend enough time with each other but learn to appreciate each other's presence more. Never make the mistake of leaving everything to one partner when the two of you can do it together. So, make a list of to-dos and divide the work equally.
5. Not Respecting Each Other's Time: Before marriage, couples always respect and value each other's time, but as newlyweds, they start taking each other for granted. And this is one of the many common mistakes that you must avoid. No matter what you do, never take your betterhalf and their time for granted. If you have promised to spend time with them, make sure you are there 100 percent, and if you can't make it, plan it some other day. Don't cancel on your partner without informing them - it is hurtful whether you are married or not. When you respect each other's time, you value each other more and cherish every minute you spend together.
So dear newlyweds, post wedding, there's a lot you have to learn and unlearn - amidst all the chaos, ensure that you respect and listen to your partner. You may not always agree with them, but listening to them once will make them feel valued and heard. On that note, if you have gotten married recently, what's one piece of advice you would want to give to the couples who are going to get hitched soon? Let us know in the comments below.