This Couple Found Permanent Roommates in Each Other For Life.
Do people fall in love at first sight? Can love at first sight actually lead to a lasting marriage? Does the instant connection only happen in movies?
We know that you must be oscillating between a yes and no right now; the Heart is saying yes, and the mind is no. We totally understand this. It’s hard to believe that two people can feel a strong connection on the first date when they decide to spend the rest of their lives together. Well, that’s exactly what happened with Minal and Aman. On their first-ever date, they felt that special feeling of finding their soulmate. Both had a gut feeling that there is something special about this person and their life would be happy if spent in each other’s company.
When we first heard about the story of Minal and Aman, the first thought in our mind was that it should be shared with the world so that people can believe love at first sight actually leads to a relationship forever. Because for some people, it’s hard to believe that two people can click on the first date. But when people see real examples like Minal and Aman, they start believing. And that’s exactly what we want everyone to believe by sharing this beautiful love story of this couple who found each other through Betterhalf and are happily married now.
To know more about their story, we talked to Aman and Minal where they shared many little, heartfelt details about how everything happened right from the very start. It’s always good to know how they come to know about Betterhalf, especially from those people who found their soulmate on Betterhalf only. So, we started our conversation with this question.
For Aman, being active in the Indian Startup Ecosystem helped him come across Betterhalf. He was discussing new, promising Indian startups with his friend and that’s when he got to know about Betterhalf. At that point, he was also on his journey to finding a life partner. So, he decided to give it a try. On the other hand, it was a funny coincidence for Minal when she was talking to a person on a different matrimony app. Things didn’t work out well between them. However, that guy only suggested Betterhalf to Minal telling her that she will find like-minded people there. So, you can try that.
They say that when you decide to be kind to others, it can change the whole world. This story started with acts of kindness; how two kind people helped two other people in finding their love of life.
Our next question was how things started initially. What was the first message like and how things moved subsequently? Telling about it, Minal said,
“We started talking in March 2022 and everything went pretty well. Since we have common interests, we gelled up pretty quickly. After one month of talking, we decided we should meet.”
While Talking about it, Aman said,
“When we started chatting after connecting on Betterhalf, we enjoyed the conversation. And from thereon, when we got on our first call, our conversation went on for around an hour. Actually, we both don’t remember the exact duration because we were enjoying ourselves so much. It was pretty smooth because there was no formality. The thing which I really liked about our first few conversations was that Minal treated me like a friend only as she was sharing the little, mundane things about how her day went and everything else. I didn’t expect that. After our first call, we video called each other daily for a month. I liked how comfortable we both were in talking and that actually paved the way forward for us.”
How lovely it is to find out how two people are so comfortable in each other’s skin. But we wanted to know more. So, we asked them how and when did they decide to end their search for a life partner after they both connected on Betterhalf? We wanted to understand what was that defining moment for both of them.
Answering this, Minal said,
“Well, I felt something magical after our first date
with Aman. I always believe that irrespective of how much you’ve talked to someone on call, you can’t decide without meeting in real life. And that first date sealed the deal for me. It won’t be an exaggeration if I say the date was something out-of-the-world experience for me. I know that he is my betterhalf.”
And then Aman started telling about his first date,
“I know it may sound a bit overstatement to people that we were sure about each other at the first date itself. But we had the context of talking over video calls for hours over a month. So, we knew what we were feeling. When we met for the first time, there were no awkward silences. Before the date, we were actually joking about what would happen if we don’t like each other after the date. But fortunately, it didn’t happen. We clicked really well.
Let me tell you an interesting thing actually. Initially, we decided to meet for just one day as I went to her city. But as our date went on, we decided to extend it to three days. Actually, the most helpful thing was that we both were searching for our Betterhalf for more than one year. And we both met different people with whom we didn’t feel that connection. With Minal, everything was ultra smooth. There wasn’t even one red signal.”
WOW! We wish everyone such a beautiful, heartwarming, and life-changing first date. After knowing the definite moment, we asked about their favorite things about each other. Talking about it, Minal said,
“I like Aman’s smile so much. Besides that, he’s a gentleman, calm and cool person. I’m the kind of person who gets excited and angry really quickly. So, I always wanted someone, by my side, who can balance my life. With Aman, I can see the difference as I am calmer than usual and don’t get excited too much in a bad way. Also, one of the best things about Aman is his listening quality. He understands me pretty well. And most importantly, he balances out everything in my life very well.”
Talking about his favorite thing about Minal, Aman said,
I love how Minal brings authenticity to my life as I believe that I’m a very superficial person. She really cares about the smallest things and that’s how I start caring about these things too. And that’s the best part about my relationship. When she says I’m calm, I can say that I’m boring at times. But this is the dynamics of our relationship which bring out the best of both. The caring part she brings into our relationship is something I am really grateful for.
Well, we can clearly see the compatibility in their relationship, and this will only survive in the long term. For Minal, Aman is the grounding force, while Minal brings excitement to Aman’s life. And that’s how they balance out each other perfectly.
In any relationship, the factor which makes people decide to marry is, more than often, pretty exciting to know. That’s why we wanted to know how they decided they wanted to marry each other. While answering our question, Aman talked about a beautiful theory he took from the movie Inside Out.
“There is this concept in the movie called Core Island. Every person has a certain aspect of their personality, in each core island. For me, a few of my core islands were overlapping with Minal’s core islands. Like, for example, we both value our family, and we both like traveling. We both believe in relationships. We both believe in being there for each other irrespective of the situation. I think that is what I was looking for to start with—Someone I can share these core islands with, obviously, there cannot be 100% overlap. Even if there is a 40-50% overlap, that's something that's amazing for me.”
For Minal, it was her gut feeling which made the marriage decision easy. Before making the final decision, she also had a call with her siblings as she is very close to them. When she told them about Aman, they also felt she should go ahead with her decision. Her family met Aman and everyone in Minal’s family liked Aman so much and that proved to be the driving force for her. Especially, her dad gave her the confidence that her choice is right.
Before ending our conversation, we wanted to ask them about the meaning of marriage. While talking about it, Aman said,
“For us, I think it's like there was this TV series, Permanent Roommates. We really believe in that word. The TV series is there, but that permanent roommate thing. All of these things you keep aside, the emotions are there, love is there, the families are involved, and all of that. In the end, it’s all about finding a permanent roommate with whom you will spend the rest of your life.
For me, marriage is also about making constant efforts toward your partner. Whatever the situation is, if you can put in the effort and intend to do the right thing, things will be alright. Whatever happens, the intent is there.
Also, I feel that marriage has permanency attached to it. Like whatever happens in my life, I have a person by my side. And that’s a very good thing. That associated permanency and that's something that I realized after getting married only. Now when I compare it to my life earlier, there were days when you didn't want to be alone. Right. But you have no choice. Obviously, there are flatmates' families, but yeah, the way you connect with your partner and are able to share things is something unexplainable.”
But for us, Minal’s answer to the meaning of marriage really made our day. She said,
“Marriage is having someone like your home where you can come every day. And that’s the best feeling in the world, basically.”
Before we ended our conversation, Minal and Aman shared their experience with the Betterhalf app. Both Minal and Aman really liked the fact that there is no parental involvement, unlike other platforms. You can directly meet with like-minded people without any trouble. You can find your soulmate without any trouble as per your preferences.
We were glad to hear these things about our platform. We really wish more people would find their soulmates, and we would love to be the bridge between two people. We sincerely wish Aman and Minal a happy, peaceful, and loving life ahead! May they find more balance in their lives as time passes on! If you are looking for your soulmate, you can try Betterhalf! Write your love story now!