This Couple Found HOME in Each Other. And That’s What Made Their Marriage Happen
“Khaali hai jo tere bina, main wo ghar hoon tera.”
Written by the ever-brilliant Irshaad Kamil for the song ‘Ghar’ from Jab Harry Met Sejal, these lines perfectly sum up the relationship between Abhijit Mohekar & Surbhi Jain, who found each other through Betterhalf and are going to married on 14th January 2022. When they found each other, they felt the same comfort they feel in their homes. And if you ask from us, there is nothing like home. People crave and seek the feeling of home all the time.
So, when both of them found it in each other, they wasted no time in identifying that they're made for each other. Well, they’ve done the right thing. We got in touch with Abhijit to hear their wonderful story. We had a lovely time while hearing their story because it is filled with so many beautiful things. And we want you guys, too, to have the same experience. That's why we are sharing their story so that more and more people can find their home in their soulmates irrespective of where they are living.
As usual, we started our conversation with the question to Abhijit about when he did he download Betterhalf for the first time and how did he hear about the same. One of the best things is that he connected with Surabhi within two days of downloading the app. Talking about it, he said,
“So, I was actively looking for different matrimonial platforms. So, I had my profile on different platforms like JeevanSathi, Shaadi, etc. I don't remember exactly where, but I saw an advertisement for Betterhalf.ai. Maybe it was on social media. So, that attracted me. And I was already using so many apps at that time. So, I thought, what's the harm in trying one more app because I was looking for a partner for marriage. So, I downloaded it on 15th or 16th August. I made my profile. The app user interface is pretty user-friendly. So, I didn't have any problem setting up my profile. Then I started spending time on the app to find the match. While doing that, I swiped right on a profile to see whether she would connect or not.
And on the 18th, I got the connection. So, within two days of downloading the app, I connected with Surbhi.”
Once we knew how Abhijit connected with Surbhi, we so badly wanted to know what their initial conversation was like because this is one thing that will never lose its charm. Even couples talk about it years after they are married. Telling us about the initial conversation, Abhijit said,
“I started with a simple Hi. Our initial conversation started with normal Hi Hellos. Then we started talking about things that we both like. And for this, I would like to say thanks to the Betterhalf app which allows us to see the mutual interests otherwise I would never be able to see them.
I don't know why but initially, on her side, it was showing that I'm from Delhi. For the first two days, we were chatting on the app only. On the third day, I asked her if she was comfortable sharing the number. She was hesitant. So, we decided to move to Instagram. When I went through her profile, I got to know that we had so many things in common. Like she loves traveling, and I love the same. Both of us are big-time foodies. Both of us are vegetarian. So, that's how we started to connect. These common points were the driving force for us.
Within 10-15 days of talking, we both felt that now we have something which we can build upon. I still remember the first question she asked me - What are you here for? Are you here for something serious or something casual?
I told her that I'm looking for something serious and long-term. She also had the same intention. The thing that helped was that both of us were planning to get married within 6months to 1 year. So, that's how we started talking.”
Talking about their lovely first meeting, Abhijit told us that he went to Raipur from Bangalore to meet Surbhi while she came all the way from Bhilai.
“When we met her for the first time, I went to Raipur from Bangalore. She also came from Bhilai. We met at the airport for the first time. After that meeting, we decided to give ourselves some time. Because we didn't want to rush into things. One reason was also that both of us had the heaviness of our pasts. After one and a half months, we went on with our conversation. And that's when we felt that it's the right time to include our parents.”
Once Abhijit told us about their first meeting, we were curious to know if he had any certain perception or expectations before meeting her in person. Abhijit told everything in detail.
When we were virtually connected, we used to get warm-up very easily. But I felt when you meet in person, there is a kind of awkwardness that both of us had. So, when we met for the first time, we had that awkwardness. When we were sitting in the auto also, we were sitting on two sides of that seat. The reason why I behaved like that was that I didn't want to come out as someone very intimidating. And she thought the same, I guess.
So, the first few minutes of our meeting were very awkward. And not in the sense of our conversations but our body language. However, once the ice melted, we had a good chat and gelled up well. We spoke a lot on our phone as well - our likes, dislikes, family, etc. We had breakfast, then went for lunch too. I still remember that when I went to meet her, it was a Sunday morning, and not many places were open at that time. So, we were sitting beside lakes and talking there. At the end of the day, we both were sure that this is the person with whom I want to go ahead. But having said that, we didn't want to jinx anything. So, we decided to take some time before making the final decision. We were like let's be double sure before going into something serious like this. We didn't want our emotions to make the decision. And both of us are not the kind of people who will talk to three different people on three different matrimony platforms before making the decision.
I was so sure that I even uninstalled that app from my phone. Because I was like - I don't want to have any second thoughts. Something inside me said that this is the right person for me, and I don't want to divert my focus. Like an instinct or a gut feeling. I knew that this is the person who can handle me for life because she held me very strongly a few times when I broke down during a few of our conversations.”
At this point, we were literally overwhelmed.
Our next question to Abhijit was about the conversation leading up to the marriage. Because we all know how big a decision of marriage is in our country. People think so much about it before making that final decision. So, we were curious about when that click happened for both of them. To which, Abhijit said,
“We didn't have a specific moment for that. When both of us downloaded Betterhalf.ai, we were sure about one thing - We are here to get married and find something serious. We were not here for a relationship because what happens is you take a certain amount of time in a relationship like 1 or 2 years. And in our case, we knew that our families wouldn't allow us that time. The most special thing about our connection was that we were able to click instantly as soon as we started talking. But as soon as we met, on that day,
When I told her that I will come on this date, she told me that she might be a bit late as her place is like 50-60kms from the Raipur Airport and she will come by around 12 pm. I told her not to worry about it. As soon as I landed, she dropped me a text which said 'Waiting'. I was like whaaat!! I didn't get it, honestly. Then she sent me a picture of the arrival gate. And my mind was blown. I said, are you serious? You're here already! In the morning, 8:30 am! When did you come? Then she told me that I had already come in the morning.
So, what I wanted to tell you is that these small little efforts are those things that make you realize that this is the person who will always stand by you. And for these things, you don't need so many days. For example, we had been talking only for 10-15 days before we met for the first time. And what she did that day was very overwhelming and cute for me. Nobody has done like this for me ever. Efforts like these make you believe that the person thinks about you.
Also, something very interesting happened between us. I'm a very introverted person, and she's also the same. While I started talking to her, I didn't feel introverted. To this date, I don't know the reason. It was like I have known this person for so long that I don't feel any introvert-ness. Between us, it was like two lost friends were meeting after a break who lost touch over time and found that touch again without any effort.
I'm not saying that we aren't introverts now. We are still the same. But now, we are so much comfortable with each other. We share everything. We know each other very well. If anything bothers us, we tell each other straight away. I believe that it's quite rare to find something like this in an arranged marriage kind of setup. We also used to call it an arranged marriage arranged by us and not a love marriage.”
Talking about his favorite thing about Surbhi, Abhijit told us that it’s her simplicity that made him fall in love.
“She keeps everything so simple. And her kindness toward people. Also, she holds me along very well. Since I met her, I haven't had any downtime. By downtime, where you don't feel like talking to anyone and want to be by yourself. When she's around, I don't feel that urge of being alone.”
With the threat of new variants looming and an increase in cases recently, Abhijit is worried about the execution of their marriage plans. Sharing her disappointment and hope about the marriage plans with us, he said,
“We have a lot of plans. But the execution part is a bit difficult now. Let me tell you an interesting story.
We were supposed to get married in February. But our parents felt that the cases might increase by that time. So we postponed our marriage to 11th January. But our tough luck is that cases also have increased in the last few days. So, we are struggling a bit at the execution front but I'm positive. She is also strong enough to deal with all this. Now, we don't want to postpone this and delay it anymore.”
Our last question to Abhijit was about the meaning of the word ‘marriage’ to him. The answer might tear you up so keep your tissue papers nearby.
“Marriage is a comfort zone for me. Home for me. We all have that best friend to whom you can go and say anything. A lot of times, I've seen that where my friends are married but they don't have that comfort zone as a couple. Like they still have a fear in their back of mind that she might get upset if I do this thing. We don't have that thing between us. We are so comfortable with each other. We don't ask for permission before doing anything. Because when you're at home, you don't need permission. You just do things without any worry. So, to me, marriage is like a home where you can be yourself with that person who is accepting you as are. Both of us aren't changing anything in ourselves to please each other.”
At Betterhalf, we feel blessed to witness stories like these. As a matrimony platform, it gives us immense pleasure to help two lovely people meet their soulmate. We sincerely wish Abhijit and Surbhi a healthy, happy, and calm life together! May they always feel at home with each other!
-With love, for love <3