Decided to Marry Even Without Meeting. Yes, it Happened. This Couple Did it!
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There is a couple who connected through Betterhalf and decided to marry without even meeting in person. We know you must be like - Are you out of your goddamn mind? How can someone decide that a person is compatible without even meeting? People cannot even choose their partner after several meetings, and you’re telling us that they did it even without meeting in person.
Well, it was a bit hard for us to believe too. But Jasmine and Adhil had some other ideas. They believed in each other. They felt the right vibe and did not waste any time in getting married. (This is the secret, we guess - not wasting any time :P). Sometimes, people are so sure about each other that the traditional ideas of choosing your partner become redundant for them. This couple belongs to that special category of people.
We knew that some of you would not believe this story. So we thought, why don’t we share the same exactly in the way Jasmine and Adhil told us? Let’s dive into this beautiful love story right away to feel the power of belief and love!
Their story started with Betterhalf, where they both were finding their marriage partners. When we asked Adhil, a Senior Sales Manager in Swiggy, how he met Jasmine, who works as a Data Administrator, he told us,
“I met Jasmine in March. Before that, I was kind of trying the dating thing, which was pretty new for me. The reason I chose Betterhalf was that it seemed different from traditional matrimony platforms. Honestly speaking, I found them pretty cringy. Also, I felt that Tinder wasn’t exactly my cup of tea. When I started Jasmine, I got to know that things were the same for her. Through Betterhalf, I got to meet with many people but I wasn’t finding anyone compatible enough.
Finally, I connected with Jasmine. And I remember my first message to her. It was a very lame joke where I asked her - ‘Do you use perfume, Jasmine?’ As soon as I said this to her, I felt my opening line was so bad. Thank god, she did take this lightly and replied - ‘Do you mean fragrance?’ I didn’t know what I should reply to her. I told her it was a joke and please forget this. And then we started over from there.”
We were laughing as much as Adhil when he was narrating the perfume part. But we were curious about how they decided to get married within two and a half months after connecting. So, when we asked the same to Adhil, he said,
“And do you believe, right after two and a half months into your relationship, we decided to take things forward. And we were so sure about the decision of marriage that we haven’t met even once in person before our decision. We understand that for some people, it could be a big thing. But our parents were involved by then, and they were also sure about our relationship. We wanted to make it happen as soon as possible.”
As we told, Jasmine and Adhil didn't meet until they decided upon marriage. Their first meeting was when Jasmine visited her hometown along with her parents. Sharing his experience of meeting Jasmine for the first time, Adhil told us,
“Well, now that I look back at it, I remember only one feeling - Overwhelming. I was so delighted to meet Jasmine and her parents. She came to my town along with her parents. I still remember the moment when I first saw her. It was on the railway platform. Before her, I met with her father. As our parents were there, we couldn’t treat each other as we intended to in the first place. At our home, our parents met. My mother doesn’t speak Hindi very well. So, initially, it was a bit difficult but things got comfortable soon. A few of my relatives were at my home to meet her parents. All of us had interacted and had lunch together. We all had a great time. Because I also feel that marriage doesn’t happen between two people; it’s two families.”
After lunch, we all went for a walk. I interacted with Jasmine for the first time there only. That was how we first interacted with each other in person. We have both been searching for our partners for so long. And we were clear about one thing - our vibes should match, and our partner should be someone who can put effort into the relationship. The last two and half months helped us decide upon our marriage. And once we met in person, our chat went on for 6 hours. We were so sure about each other.”
A relationship, irrespective of its longevity, is built on beautiful memories. The relationship between Jasmine and Adhil has just started. But we knew they must have something to share. When we asked him about his favorite memory or some interesting incident in their relationship so far, we got a jackpot!
“I must say that life has been pretty amazing after the marriage. We are so happy and enjoying every moment to its fullest. Before we met, both of our parents were forcing us to get married as soon as possible. When I met Jasmine, I asked her about the timeline within which she wants to get married as I wanted to do it as soon as possible. Initially, I was very scared that she would say something like 6 months, But then she said 6 years. I was shocked after listening to this.
But then we started talking. We had really long conversations about our likes, dislikes, similarities, differences, and everything else under the sun. Despite both of us being South Indians, our languages and cultures are different.”
“If I were to talk about my favorite memory in our relationship so far, it would be from our Honeymoon. We went to South Goa. There was a huge beach and almost no one was there. So, we were going further and further. Suddenly a huge wave came and it snatched all our belongings like Sunglasses, wallets, and other things we'd put near the beach. We were trying to make a time-lapse.
That big wave swept off literally. Except for my phone. Luckily, Jasmine saw the case of the phone buried in the sand when the wave went back. She dug the phone out. It was very important to our trip as all our bookings and registrations were on it only. Also, we were on a trip for a total of 12 days, and it was only our second day. It would've been a disaster if she hadn’t found it.”
With a smile on his face, Adhil told us that, in the end, they managed to get the time-lapse.
Now you must have understood why we said we hit a jackpot. :p
In any relationship, a couple likes so many things about each other. These little things work as fuel to ignite their engine of togetherness. For Adhil, the way Jasmine puts everything in their relationship foremost is his favorite thing about her. Talking about the things he values most in Jasmine, he said, “Well, it is mostly about how both of us put so much effort into making ourselves and our relationship happier than before. Also, she is so loyal and honest with her thoughts. Sometimes, I even hate her because of the fact how she puts everything in our relationship before herself. Everything in our relationship is so important.”
For Jasmine, how Adhil remembers everything is the most special thing for her. For her, Adhil is the nicest of the men she's ever met.
“He remembers everything. Whatever I mention in the conversation, irrespective of how small they are, he remembers it. Whatever things I like, things that I’ve gone through in the past, little things I dislike and he takes care of all those things in his way.”
We were amazed by how both Jasmine and Adhil landed upon the decision of marriage so early in their relationship. That’s why we always wanted to ask them about the idea of marriage, an act of commitment. When we did the same, Adhil started with...
“I wanted to be with someone with whom I can have meaningful conversations. Someone who can understand me and with whom I can be the right person. And by right, I want to make sure that I'm the right person for that person. Because when you are in a relationship or like someone, you tend to see the beautiful parts of that person. But in marriage, you also need to love the annoying traits of a person. For me, love is when you admit both the beautiful and annoying traits of your partner. Because eventually, you live with both. Life is both day and night. It doesn't mean we are annoying to each other. But we should always try to be the betterhalf of someone rather than finding the betterhalf.”
For Jasmine, marriage is nothing but friendship with love. She feels that marriage is all about two people accepting to be best friends living with each other for life.
We, at Betterhalf, also believe that love is all about understanding other imperfections as well. If you chase perfection in a relationship, most of the time, you will be disappointed.
Our last question was about their marriage to which Adhil had a lot to say.
“We both like the whole idea of traveling to new places and exploring. Initially, we thought of having a simple court marriage. The logic behind our thinking was pretty simple: “Jitne paise Shaadi mein lagayenge, utne mein hum na jaane kitni nayi places explore kar sakte hain!”
We knew that once you involve people in your marriage, you lose control over anything. But what we thought couldn’t happen. It became a grand wedding in the end. We married at a resort in Bengaluru. It was a total 3-day event. Haldi and everything else happened there only. Both of our friends and cousins were there. They danced and enjoyed their hearts out. We must say that celebration would be an understatement regarding our marriage. It was an event. The exact moment when we tied the knot was so beautiful, emotional, life-changing, and breathtaking. It will remain as one of the most special moments of my life.”
Both Jasmine and Adhil said in unison that they are indebted to Betterhalf because everything was possible because of this platform only. Well, we, at Betterhalf.ai, are grateful that we have created something that helps people meet their life partner. We sincerely wish them a happy and healthy life together. May they travel to all corners of the world!
- With love, for love <3