There's no relationship without ups and downs, and it applies to a marriage as well. When you plan the wedding of your life with your loved one, all you dream of is a happy married life - however, one thing that you tend to overlook is that marriages need work too.
Like every relationship, your marriage will also have its own set of hiccups, and when you find a way to deal with the problem, it's always going to be a happy ending. However, at times, couples try to run away from the problems and ruin the marriage because of their silliness. So if you are going through a rough patch in your wedding, things will be fine soon. With that, here are seven things you must avoid doing since these could potentially ruin your marriage.
- You Keep Secrets from Your Partner: Communication is the key to every successful marriage. So if you are having issues, concerns or doubts, talk about it with your partner. Make sure you trust your partner and share everything with them. If you think you have made a mistake by splurging more or are trying to make ends meet because of some financial crunch, share it with your betterhalf. When you are on the same page and know everything about each other, you will be happy even in the toughest situation. Sharing everything can be difficult, but with the right person, everything seems alright.
- Not Expressing Gratitude: When you become too comfortable in your marriage, you often start taking your partner for granted, which can ruin the marriage . So whenever your partner does something well and thoughtful for you, don’t forget to appreciate them and thank them. If they are trying to bring a smile to your face, acknowledge their efforts and let them know that you appreciate them doing all this for you. Before the wedding, you two were always grateful to each other, and marriage shouldn't change that. Always be kind and considerate towards each other's feelings, and things will always fall in place.
- Not Prioritising Each Other: Post marriage, the first thing you must do is prioritize the relationship with your partner. By this, we don't mean that you have to constantly be with each other- what we mean is that you need to know when to think of your marriage and when to say no to other people. Don't spend all your time thinking about your financial future and job, and giving equal importance to your marriage is necessary. Take out some time from your schedules and plan surprises for each other. If you know your partners have had a rough day at work, surprise them with roses or take them on a date.
- Avoiding Help: Marriages take work, and if you have a problem, you’ve to deal with it and don't let that problem ruin the marriage. Don't shy about seeking professional help from marriage counselors - work on it and build the relationship again. You can avoid the issues for a day or a week, but you cannot continue with something that's partially broken. So when you know there's a problem, look for ways to solve it. And going to a marriage counselor or therapist is one since they can help you gain perspective and help you fill the gap between you and your loved one.
- Not Admitting When You Are At Fault: Living life in denial could ruin your marriage as well as your life. Whenever you make a mistake, admit it and apologize to your partner. Apologizing will never make you small - in fact it will strengthen the bond you share with your betterhalf. You are not in school, so don't be afraid to say sorry when you genuinely mean it. Not acknowledging it will worsen the situation, and your marriage might land in more trouble. So be wise and admit when you think you have messed up.
- Being Insecure And Jealous: Just because you had a wedding, and you are leading a married life, you shouldn't start treating your partner differently. Don't ask them why they are late from work, why they are working so much recently, etc. If you are genuinely concerned, it's fine- but asking them out of insecurity will do no good to your relationship. You have to ensure that whatever you ask should only be out of concern and not because you are jealous of something or someone. You should respect the relationship you have built with your partner and always talk about your feelings instead of being insecure about it.
- Not Respecting Each Other: You and your partner can have differences of opinion, and that's okay. However, not valuing and respecting others' opinions and choices is never right. You have to learn to respect the decisions and choices your partner makes and expect them to do the same. Never disrespect the work they do or the profession they choose - you shouldn't disrespect their thoughts and opinions too. Everyone has the right to think differently, and disregarding your betterhalf for doing so will ruin the marriage. If you don't agree on some issues, instead of being rude, talk and try finding a solution.
Marriages have their shares of struggles, but whatever happens, make sure you try solving the issue by communicating. You love your partner, and if you fight with them at times, it's fine as long as you confront each other and work on your relationship daily. Try avoiding hurting each other knowingly since that can ruin the marriage. And if you are having a wedding soon, keep these tips in mind, and thank us later.