Indian weddings are filled with culture and traditions. And while some are fun and quirky, some are traditional and cannot be missed. So dear bride-to-be, if you are getting hitched soon, we are sure you would love to know more about wedding rituals that will take place on the main day. And with that said, here are five things you must know about Kanyadaan - the most sacred custom in Indian weddings. The holy ritual is performed by the bride's parents. In this ritual, the bride's parents happily give away their daughter's hands to her future husband and his family. This function is a super emotional one, and here's everything you should know about it.
Things About The Holy Ceremony Of Kanyadaan That Every Bride Should Know
- Kanyadaan And its History: Kanyadaan comes from the historic Manu Smirti Text, and it has become the core part of Hinduism today. As per the teachings of this text, a male guardian was necessary for every woman. And before marriage, that male guardian is the father. Hence, while performing Kanyadaan, the father passes the guardianship to her husband. And while Kanyadaan is an important ritual, it is also very emotional for the bride and her father since he is giving away his most prized possession. The ‘kanyadaan’ is also the greatest gift given by the bride’s father to the groom.
- Hidden Meaning Behind Kanyadaan: As per legends and folklores, the bride is considered the reincarnation of Goddess Laxmi, and the groom is a form of Lord Vishnu. Hence, the bride's parents perform this ceremony and form the union of the two gods. Dear bride-to-be, we know you are of this generation, you may not agree with this, but when it comes to Hindu wedding, nothing is more pure and sacred than the holy ritual of Kanyadaan. And while growing up, we are sure you must have heard the significance and importance behind this ritual. And now you know why it's considered this holy and so important.
- The Kanyadaan is Equally Important To The Groom: Yep, you read that right! While Kanyadaan is supremely important and emotional for the bride and her family, it's equally important for the groom as well. It is so because at the wedding when the father of the bride performs Kanyadaan, he also accepts the groom as his son-in-law. It is at that very moment, that the father of the bride accepts the groom and welcomes him to the family. And while this is one side to it, the other explanations also suggest that in the Kanyadaan ceremony, the bride's father requests the groom to accept their daughter as a wife.
- When Is Kanyadaan Performed?: Dear bride-to-be, we are sure you already know that Kanyadaan is performed right after the Varmalas are exchanged. However, there's more to it. You should know that while performing Kanyadaan, the bride's father takes her right hand and places it in the groom's right hand. Post that, the bride's mother pours holy water (gangajal) on the palm of the bride's father, which flows through the daughter’s and the groom’s hands eventually. And while this ceremony takes place, the powerful Mantras are chanted in the background, making the ceremony pure. And while this is how the Kanyadaan takes place, depending on cultures, some people also use things like betel lead or rice. And while every community has its way, the sentiments remain the same.
- Kanyadaan Has Now Become Controversial: Yep, you read that right. Women now consider this practice a bit offensive since it portrays women as an object. It essays how women, as an object, get handed from one person to another, which doesn't sit well with the 21st century. And while several women oppose this tradition today, many still follow it wholeheartedly. In some wedding scenarios, this wedding ritual is skipped, while others follow this with all the traditions.
Now, as a bride-to-be, we would love to know what you think about this ritual. Is it good, or does it objectify women? Let us know in the comments below.